How to select a mentor that’s right for you
Who should listen: Anyone who might be reluctant to hire a coach or find a mentor.
Key idea: Most of us know what we need to do to achieve what we want; we just need the motivation, a reason, and someone to hold us accountable to get it.
Action items: 1. Increase your productivity by setting screen time alerts on your phone, then try to cut that time in half. 2. Set a goal for the next month to take action to achieve your craving.
This week’s guest Nate Auffort attributes his initial success to finding someone who not only helped him achieve his goal, but also held him accountable for taking the necessary steps for it. to reach. If you’re considering hiring a coach or finding a mentor, Nate’s story should inspire you to take this step.
But, you might ask, “How can I do this?” “
That’s a great question because there is no shortage of “fake gurus” promoting themselves and their programs, and it’s easy to get carried away by the promises they make. Below we offer some tips for finding the genuine item.
But first, let’s be clear about what coaching is because it is often confused with mentoring.
What is the difference between coaching and mentoring?
The truth is, unless you work in a company with a formal coaching program or have hired a professional coach yourself, the roles of coach and mentor are often linked and the line between them is often blurred. Still, knowing how to distinguish a coaching relationship from a mentoring relationship is useful so that you can set realistic expectations for your association.
In a formal arrangement, the difference between what a coach will do and what a mentor will do is largely based on how directive each is with their advice.
According to PushFar, coaches should ask lots of questions designed to get you thinking about what you can do to get ahead and accomplish more. A basic assumption of coaching is that you probably already know what you need to do to reach your goal, but you need someone to give you “the space, the confidence and the confidence” to do it.
Mentors, on the other hand, are more directive. Mentors will share their experiences, knowledge and skills. They will often tell you what to do. They will offer advice that they expect you to follow. They will also offer a lot of feedback.
How to choose the right mentor
First and foremost, a good mentor is someone who has done what you want to do.Unlike a fake guru, a mentor with first-hand experience will talk about details, not generalities or principles. They will be able to clearly explain what they did, step by step, to achieve a particular goal. They will have an idea that someone who has not worked will not.
A good mentor will not only know what they are doing, but will also be enthusiastic and enthusiastic about sharing their knowledge and skills with you. They will have great interpersonal skills and be able to build a strong relationship with you. They will commit to carrying their relationship with you to the end.
When you meet a good mentor, it will be inspiring and encouraging. (The motivation depends on you). And they will come in handy when deciding your goals.
Finally, a good mentor should be honest and up front. In a relationship of trust, where your mentor is committed to helping you succeed, you need someone who will tell you what they are and hold you accountable. If you are not prepared for these kinds of comments, then you are not ready to have a mentor.
The above qualities make a good mentor, but ideally you want to select a mentor who is not only good but also just for you.
The right mentor will share similar values and strive to achieve similar goals, preferably in the same area of work or in the same industry. You will likely be more compatible and better able to understand and appreciate their advice if you have these things in common.
However, the right mentor needs to be different in a way that will challenge you and push you to develop skills and knowledge that you don’t already have but have mastered. For example, if you are not good at professional networking, the right mentor will have that skill and know how to nurture and build relationships that provide mutual value.
Finally, the right mentor for you can be of the same or the opposite sex. Research shows that men and women approach mentoring relationships differently, and you may be more comfortable with one approach than the other.
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